"We all r busy, we all have a thousand things to do and in our heads. I am asking you to stop,and make sure your kids know you love them.
*Help them with their chores.
*Let them do that fun thing that is easier to just say no to.
*Take them to lunch or on a picnic and just talk about what ever they want to talk about.
*Catch them doing something {RIGHT} and make a {BIG} deal about it!
... *Even though u r stressed out and don't have time to field those crazy questions or see what they drew for the 100th time, {STOP} calmly explain what's going on and ask them wait until an agreed upon time. Do {NOT} make them feel like a {BURDEN}, kids turn what we say and how we act all around.
*Love your children!
#lessonsfromagrievingmom"
Then that VERY Night, I was doing a Scentsy party (I'm a Scentsy Consultant) and as soon as I started in on my speal, Jena (my daughter) started throwing a fit because she couldn't do the activity sheet I had give to her to do. I tried to be calm and correct her, but really keep on working. Well several more times she interrupted me and I kept getting madder and madder. We just had a talk in the car as we were driving over that she was going to sit there and not say a word until I was done. And then I introduced a new brand that was coming out in a few days (Velata {fondue}) and Jena asked to try it and I allowed her two strawberries, these were not my berries so I felt bad when I gave her the second. I told her no more and she kept asking and I kept telling her NO. I was getting more and more frustrated that she was still asking. One of the party attender's "pulled Grandma rights" gave Jena more berries and a couple cookies, which I was fine with. It was then that it hit me,does Jena know that I love her right now? Am I making Jena feel bad because I keep getting harsher with her? Right then, I decided that the next time Jena misbehaved that I was going to be LOVING in correcting her.
You know what, she never acted up again the rest of the night {she was playing with their dog, lol}. I never got my chance to fix my wrong. The next day we had another talk about how she acted and we came up with ways for her to stay entertained while I did my presentation and to give me our preplanned signal when she needed to talk to me. I started off the conversation with an apologize and told her that I loved her very much.
I will let you know how she does at the next party!! God willing, She will bean angel!
I need to start Doing what I say and NOT doing what I FEEL.
Remember, Love your kids and when you mess up be brave enough to admit your mistake and apologize to your children. They Learn From Watching US!
